People who have adopted a baby or a planning on doing it often hear the same things from their friends and family. That is because a lot of people have horrible misconceptions when it comes to the adoption of a baby and this becomes a problem when it becomes widespread. So here are the most common myths surrounding newborn adoptions and the truth behind the lies.
It’s always a long wait…
The time it takes to complete a successful adoption – or even get connected with a birthmother ranges from family to family. While some adoptive parents are able to adopt in just months, it’s not uncommon for the process to take a couple of years. There are many factors that play into the time it takes to adopt, including miscarriages, the birthmother changing her mind, or financial obligations.
It’s a very expensive process…
But what about cost? It’s no secret that newborn adoption comes at a price. But of course, you are not “buying a baby” — an act that is illegal around the world and in every state in the United States. All aspects of the adoption process are regulated by state laws and reviewed by judges. The fees associated with newborn adoption cover an array of items, including home studies and medical care for the birthmother.
Birthparents can just take the child at any time…
Another myth is that the birthparents can resurface at any time and reclaim their children. In truth, less than one percent of domestic adoptions are contested in the courts. That doesn’t mean that domestic newborn adoption doesn’t involve legal risk. After the birthparents give consent to release their baby for adoption, they have a small time frame in which they can change their minds. By the time an adoption is finalized, both parties (birthparents and adoptive parents) are 100% cognizant that the adoptive parents are recognized as the child’s family under the law. While post-placement revocations are devastating for everyone involved, they are extremely rare.
Adopted children are developmentally and emotionally challenged…
Perhaps the most troubling adoption myth is the one that says adopted children are troubled both developmentally and emotionally. However, research suggests that adoptees may be just as well-adjusted, if not better, than their non-adopted peers. Adoptive children tend to grow up showing more openness towards other races, ethnicities, and types of people. They also tend to be proud of who they
Open Adoption is always problematic…
For those who haven’t done their homework, open adoption might seem like an invitation for birthmothers to intrude on adoptive families down the road. Adoptive parents who choose an open adoption might receive harsh feedback from family and friends who don’t see how contact with the birthmother on any level can be positive. In truth, children often have a very clear understanding of relationships. Children can love the person who gave them life while also loving the people who take care of them so they can live that life.
Adopting a baby is a difficult process and one not to be taken lightly. But the whole process would be much easier if people had the support of their family and friends. For that to happen, a lot of people need to educate themselves and rid themselves of the misconceptions surrounding adopting a newborn. So if your view has been changed, share it with your family and friends and join us in keeping the facts about newborn adoption the real ones!
